WRITING
Essays
These essays work at the intersection of clinical practice and literary thought — beginning in the consulting room, opening into the theory that makes the consulting room legible, returning always to the specific and unrepeatable difficulty of being a person in relation to other people. They are not case studies or self-help.
They are attempts to think carefully about what we do to each other, and to ourselves, in the name of love, care, and the long project of becoming more honestly present.
The writing falls into two threads that circle the same preoccupations from different angles. The Relational Integrity essays build the framework: what honest connection requires of us, what care costs, what identity is made of when it is chosen rather than inherited. The Staying With series follows individual lives — patients, couples, people navigating loss and desire, and the particular difficulty of remaining present across time — through the literary-clinical essay form developed in this practice. Both threads are ongoing.
Relational Integrity — Framework essays: on the six pillars, the cost of care, the construction of self.
Staying With — The series: on love, loss, presence, and the untimeliness of things.
The Cost of Care
On the price paid by those who care without conditions — and what it means when the cost can no longer be kept invisible.
Staying With What Changes
On the six movements of relational repair — and why the framework that names them is also the first thing that needs to be held lightly.